Teenagers' Top Needs

Youth Specialties surveyed 20,000 Christian kids attending a Missions-type camp to rank their "dying needs." Their answers are surprising and challenging- and worth a close look by parents and leaders alike.


Teenagers’ Top Needs
We asked Christian teenagers to scan a list of 20 “needs” in their life, then rank them from one to seven according to how strongly they’d like that need to be met. The lower the number, the higher the desire for the need to be met. We wanted them to differentiate between “dying” needs and “nice to have but not that important” needs. Here’s how the numbers added up….

Top Needs (Description)	Teenagers (Average)
1. I need help building a positive relationship with God	2.66
2. I need help building a positive relationship with my parents	3.47
3. I need help managing or dealing with the stresses in my life	3.65
4. I need someone to help me answer some of my big doubts about the Christian faith	3.79
5. I need help understanding the Christian faith better	3.82
6. I need help in knowing how to share my faith with friends and others	3.88
7. I need help with my academics	3.92
8. I need help figuring out my future choices (college, job, career, marriage, etc)	4.00
9. I need help dealing with depression	4.01
10. I need help with my overwhelming commitments	4.06
11. I need help dealing with the pain I feel in life	4.09
12. I need help developing more and better friendships	4.15
13. I need help ending my dependence on drugs or alcohol or tobacco	4.20
14. I need help with making better moral choices in my life	4.22
15. I need help in receiving forgiveness for things I’ve done	4.40
16. I need help with living a healthier lifestyle—eating better and exercising	4.44
17. I need help with time management and discipline in my life	4.51
18. I need help resolving conflicts	4.83
19. I need help sorting out sexual issues (sexual activity, gender issues, homosexuality, etc.)	4.91
20. I need help with girlfriend/boyfriend issues	5.18

YouPick- "How Do I Hear From God?" Notes

This is the first time I'm doing this: Putting my speaking notes for all to see. Maybe you missed something I said, or needed to look back and re-read something, or maybe you just want to criticize me for how much I stink at speaking (wouldn't be the first, or last). Whatever you are using it for, know this: I make mistakes, but I'm learning. My notes may seem scattered, and may include things I didn't actually say, for some reason or another, so deal with it. I'm not editing them, because I don't have time, or the will power, to do that. It's raw, it's real, and it's a repeat of what I talked about Sunday. Enjoy! (Side Note: This one is a lengthy one. Most aren't quite this long.)

Here's the link to our Student Ministry website, where you can download the file.: www.hillsborostudents.com

Passing on Grass

The grass I'm referring to is the kind the horses that reside in the field next to my house eat. It provides nourishment, energy, and meets the essential need they have in eating.
I came across this blog post by Chris Elrod and thought it was "grass" that needed to be passed on. I have been frustrated with a few of these myself. Enjoy.

There is some stuff I just cannot comprehend.  Try as I may to get it…it doesn’t make any logical or Scriptural sense. Here is a partial of things I do not understand.

1. Folks that show up to church only a few times a year but expect the pastor to drop everything to provide them with his undivided attention.
2. People that put nothing in the offering plate but still have the stones to expect that their opinions on the church should count.
3. Parents who ground their children from church or the youth group…the very things that could help them with their behavior, future and afterlife.
4. People that expect the pastor to tolerate their political views…but leave the church because of his.
5. The occasional volunteer that expects the church to throw a parade in their honor just because they finally did what the Bible commanded.
6. People that have basked in the grace of God…but fail to give grace to anyone else.
7. Pastors that leave one church for another…for better pay.
8. The need for church growth plans, programs, books, conference, seminars and resource kits…when we already have the Bible
9. Women that tolerate their husbands having multiple affairs…”for the sake of the kids”.
10. Pastors that would rather be political pundits or civil rights leaders…instead of just preaching the life-saving message of the Word of God.
11. People that have one spiritual standard for their pastor…and another for themselves.
12. Folks that think the word ‘disciple’ is a noun…and not a verb.
13. People that make comments about needing to go “deeper” in God’s Word…as if there is a Scripture in the Bible that isn’t deep.
14. Pastors that think accountability means never asking them the tough questions or taking the hard line when it comes to their failure to follow Scripture.
15. Men that think being the head of the household has something to do with the amount of money they are bringing in or the title they acquire at work.